Have you ever wondered how many of the men who use a smile emoticon at the end of an electronic message were actually smiling when they typed it? If your guess falls somewhere below three percent, join the club.
There are a numerous things I find profoundly annoying on the social web. But the worst of the very worst of them, I would suggest, is men trying to look cute. Not inadvertently just being cute. I’m talking about men who deliberately try to look cute, in a bid to manipulate or self-serve. Before anyone accuses me of sexism, I know that women try to look cute on the Internet too, and I’m not saying I find that particularly attractive. Indeed, women who sing in a deliberately cute, babyish, contrived voice on Soundcloud make me want to cut the plug off my speakers. But there’s something about men trying to be cute that’s just… worse. Continue reading Online Intolerables: Men Trying To Look Cute
After my crit observing the ‘manosphere’s distorted vision of women, I thought I should write a searching piece about the ‘manosphere’s arch enemy – just to balance things up.
There’s a perception, among an apparently burgeoning male group, that men are being demonised by women. Excluded, purely on the basis that they were born with a penis. Made to feel that whatever they say or do, it will automatically be bad, because they’re a man, and men are bad. Faced with a choice of either being publicly ashamed of their gender, or being lambasted as “part of the problem”. Victims, of sexism. I decided I was going to explore this issue, and concisely wrap it up in a blog post. Continue reading The Demonisation of Man
At the time, I imagined that Medium’s most likely means of financing its existence would be increasingly heavy advertising. But this year, the platform switched to a subscription model in which users pay to read the site’s best content. Well, in theory the best, although that does depend on whether the best writers choose to lock their content behind the site’s optional paywall. If Medium’s best writers opt to keep their feed open to the wider Internet, in practice the best content will still be free. Continue reading Has Medium.com Fixed Broken Publishing?
“As a result of other posts on this blog, I’ve got used to being asked for help in unmasking “trolls”. Most typically, the requests have come from political activists who think they have the right to verbally attack those with whom they don’t agree, but should themselves be immune from any such attacks. Because… well, you know… Because their opinion is right, and everyone else’s is wrong, basically.
Continue reading The Not-So-Advanced World of Online Troll Investigation
“It seems that in the back yard of every adult service stream, there’s a selfless guy offering to free disgruntled users from the horror of ‘porn addiction’. But have you ever stopped to think what ‘porn addiction’ is supposed to mean, and how such an addiction could work in a clinical sense?
Given that the term is applied to a much broader base of sexually-motivated vices than simply buying or using pornography, why is it called ‘porn addiction’ and not ‘sex addiction’? Is it even an addiction at all? And if ‘porn addiction’ is a myth, should we not just accept it as “a white lie which is helping to eradicate evil?”
Continue reading Why ‘Porn Addiction’ is a Myth
“Last Thursday afternoon, I walked out of a boardroom after taking part in a conference call. In itself that was an achievement for someone who, back in the spring, was so crippled with social anxiety that he could barely even face a doctor.
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“I went in at the deep end with written humour, sending irreverent articles to printed magazines in the 1990s, and fortunately finding an editor who was only too pleased to publish and pay for them.
Continue reading How To Get Greater Recognition as a Creator of Online Comedy