Have you ever wondered how many of the men who use a smile emoticon at the end of an electronic message were actually smiling when they typed it? If your guess falls somewhere below three percent, join the club.
There are a numerous things I find profoundly annoying on the social web. But the worst of the very worst of them, I would suggest, is men trying to look cute. Not inadvertently just being cute. I’m talking about men who deliberately try to look cute, in a bid to manipulate or self-serve. Before anyone accuses me of sexism, I know that women try to look cute on the Internet too, and I’m not saying I find that particularly attractive. Indeed, women who sing in a deliberately cute, babyish, contrived voice on Soundcloud make me want to cut the plug off my speakers. But there’s something about men trying to be cute that’s just… worse. Continue reading Online Intolerables: Men Trying To Look Cute
After my crit observing the ‘manosphere’s distorted vision of women, I thought I should write a searching piece about the ‘manosphere’s arch enemy – just to balance things up.
There’s a perception, among an apparently burgeoning male group, that men are being demonised by women. Excluded, purely on the basis that they were born with a penis. Made to feel that whatever they say or do, it will automatically be bad, because they’re a man, and men are bad. Faced with a choice of either being publicly ashamed of their gender, or being lambasted as “part of the problem”. Victims, of sexism. I decided I was going to explore this issue, and concisely wrap it up in a blog post. Continue reading The Demonisation of Man
It would be easy to dismiss the ‘manosphere’ as a massively sexist adult nursery full of raging, paranoid misogynists, and leave it there. But maybe that’s a little too easy. I mean, all those angry guys, venting their spleens in range of bite-sized, two-million-word discussions… It’s a lot of effort. A one-sentence response would hardly be worthy of contemplation after all that.
So in this post, I’m going to look at seven popular ‘manosphere’ opinions, which showcase the level of delusion within the environment. I’ve placed the opinions in quotes, but they’re really summaries, which may or may not also be specific statements, made by specific individuals… Continue reading Seven Dumb Opinions That Highlight The ‘Manosphere’s Delusion
“Most of us recognise the concept of timewasting as a particularly annoying, manipulative and selfish form of attention-seeking.
If you’ve ever worked in a luxury goods store, chances are you’ll associate the word ‘timewaster’ with someone who pretends they’re going to make a significant purchase, just so they can be emotionally pampered by the staff. Continue reading Why Most Timewasters Are Male
“Scrankers. They’re the virtual world’s answer to kerb-crawlers… Except their highway is Twitter, their vehicle is a computing device full of Porn Valley evercookies, and their wallets are invariably empty.
Continue reading Scrankers: New-Age Online Kerb-Crawlers in Close-up
“Personal ads. They’re shit. They don’t work. Except they’re not, and they do. If your personal ad is not working, it is in fact you who are shit. Here’s why the majority of people who place personal ads fail miserably, time after time, and what they should do to turn things around…
Continue reading How to Succeed With a Personal Ad
“Nice guys finish last”. It’s become the mantra of men who’ve spent a lot of time and money creating an aura of generosity with the ladies, but have been rejected, only to witness an archetypal ‘Jack-the-lad’ user/player breeze into the picture and apparently sweep the girls off their feet.
But is the classic Mr Nice Guy character really as generous as he seems to believe? And do women really prefer to be treated mean?… Continue reading Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last?