Why ‘Porn Addiction’ is a Myth

It seems that in the back yard of every adult service stream, there’s a selfless guy offering to free disgruntled users from the horror of ‘porn addiction’. But have you ever stopped to think what ‘porn addiction’ is supposed to mean, and how such an addiction could work in a clinical sense?

Given that the term is applied to a much broader base of sexually-motivated vices than simply buying or using pornography, why is it called ‘porn addiction’ and not ‘sex addiction’? Is it even an addiction at all? And if ‘porn addiction’ is a myth, should we not just accept it as “a white lie which is helping to eradicate evil?”
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Why Most Timewasters Are Male

Clock Time

Most of us recognise the concept of timewasting as a particularly annoying, manipulative and selfish form of attention-seeking.

If you’ve ever worked in a luxury goods store, chances are you’ll associate the word ‘timewaster’ with someone who pretends they’re going to make a significant purchase, just so they can be emotionally pampered by the staff. Continue reading Why Most Timewasters Are Male

The Twitter Creep Test

Twitter Creep Test

Most creeps know, deep down, that they’re creeps. Even if we weren’t aware of that before the rise of Web 2.0, we certainly are now. On Twitter – one of the Internet’s most conducive platforms for questionable conduct – we can see the creep at work, and a defining facet of his behaviour is a constant quest to hide his activities from the wider world. A creep wants his lascivious and suggestive fawning and/or propositioning to be private, but women won’t talk to him in private, so he airs all of his embarrassing virtual laundry in public. Continue reading The Twitter Creep Test

Ten Reasons Why Mass/Auto-DMs on Twitter Are a Dumb Move

Twitter Direct Message Spam

I can see their little faces, peering at some ghastly app and being informed that they have the means to automatically promote whatever they want to promote, directly, to all their Twitter followers at once. The faces adopt not a gleeful smile, but an intensive and mildly aggressive look of self-serving focus, as the brain takes route one and engages the process.

But like all plans that look too good to be true, this is too good to be true. There are in fact more than ten reasons why automated, mass Direct Messages are a dumb means of Twitter promotion. But here are ten of the most obvious, and important… Continue reading Ten Reasons Why Mass/Auto-DMs on Twitter Are a Dumb Move

Identifying Who’s Behind a Twitter Fake

Who's Behind the Twitter Fake

Some years ago I began to take an increasing interest in a couple of guys who were experts at identifying fake Internet accounts. They weren’t trained specialists – they were just ordinary Web users. But they were always exposing fake accounts, and they were always right.

On one occasion, one of them uncovered three digits’ worth of accounts belonging to the same person, and published his allegations. Initially, to say I was sceptical was an understatement, but it soon became clear that his accusations were correct. I became fascinated with how he investigated these matters – all the more so because he’d often publish his rationale and evidence in each case. Continue reading Identifying Who’s Behind a Twitter Fake

Reverse Promotion: What Actually is #FF – Follow Friday?

Barack Obama Follow Friday

Surely, no one who’s used Twitter for more than about a month can have failed to observe the insidious and disengaging deluge of #FF tweets at the end of each working week. #FF stands for Follow Friday, and at face value, it’s a selfless gesture in which a user kindly promotes other people’s accounts – urging the Twittersphere to follow them. But is Follow Friday really as selfless as it looks? Does it actually work? And why, given that social media is the ultimate encapsulation of me-culture, do so many people apparently take time out of their hard-line “ME! ME! ME!” campaigns to actively promote users they barely know?..

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Why Twitter Users REALLY Protect Their Accounts

Twirpz Quote B

When most people see a protected Twitter account, they’ll either Follow it, ignore it, or, if my relevant blog stats are anything to go by, come to this site in a bid to find out how to covertly spy on it. But when I see a protected Twitter account, my initial instinct is none of the above. What I want to do, is find out why. Why did that user protect his or her account? There has to be a reason. There’s a reason for everything. Continue reading Why Twitter Users REALLY Protect Their Accounts